Marriage V

Marriage Blueprint

1. What can you learn from this? Jeremiah 6:16

   16 This is what the Lord says:

   “Stand at the crossroads and look;
   ask for the ancient paths,
   ask where the good way is, and walk in it,
   and you will find rest for your souls.
   But you said, ‘We will not walk in it.’

2. Should the individual who is ready to get married first obtain permission from God to join his marriage institution?
3. Should the individual ready to get married be the one to choose their spouse?
4. What could go wrong if an individual chooses their spouse?
5. Who is most suited to choose a spouse for an individual? Genesis 2:21-23

   21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

   22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

   23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

6. What can dating achieve that friendship cannot?
7. If you wanted to know a person for who they really were, to be joined together in marriage, becoming one flesh, would you start by disclosing your intentions to them?
8. What is the reason for your answer?
9. What could go wrong if you disclosed your intentions to them?
10. What would be the safest way to get to know someone for who they really are?
11. List other safe ways to know a person for the institution of marriage.
12. Do feelings affect our judgment and make us not see things for what they are?
13. When you start developing feelings for the opposite sex, what is the safest thing to do?
14. Can a family member, friend, worship leader, etc. assist you in getting to know someone for who they really are and provide an unbiased report?
15. Should the child of God date?
16. What is the closest you should get to a person you wish to know for marriage, friendship, or dating?
17. When you are sure about a person's character and alignment, what is the safest way to approach them for marriage?
18. What is the reason for your answer?
19. What happens to your self-esteem, and self-confidence, when you are turned down?`
20. What could go wrong when you have been turned down too many times by the same person, or different people?
21. Are you likely to think something may be wrong with you even if there wasn't?
22. When you think something is wrong with you, are you likely to settle for the next person you deem compatible, even if you may not be compatible?
23. Is it safer to let a relative, or worship leader, approach the person on your behalf?
24. When both partners have agreed to marry, should they at least get to know each other before their marriage is sealed?
25. What is the reason for your answer?
26. How should they conduct themselves during courtship?
27. Should they do things that will make them develop feelings for each other, affecting their judgment?
28. What are some actions that when repeated over time will make a person emotionally attached to another?
29. Should courtship last too long?
30. What could go wrong when courtship lasts too long?
31. What are some things that when they do will make them develop feelings and not see things for what they really are?
32. What are some important questions to ask each other during courtship?
33. How would you know that you are not about to commit any of these sexual sins with the person you are joining with, in the marriage? Leviticus 18
34. Who must witness the marriage, besides the families of both partners? Malachi 2:14

    14 You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.

35. What changes would you make to your marriage blueprint?